How does your fear protect itself? What stories do you rely on that allow you to stay safe? What would it mean to live fully and freely?
Things don’t generally get done if we don’t make them a priority. Sometimes we don’t choose what we want to prioritize and end up doing things that aren’t in line with our values or goals. What needs to be let go if in order for something quiet, like peace, to come into the fore?
Deep wisdom here and HARD AF to practice. I read stuff like this- and it feels insurmountable so why try right? But we can open to it in small moments, little bites- taking in what we can without becoming overwhelmed. When we do that we build stamina and stamina allows for more moments to be met with curiosity. We learn that what’s needed is to attend and make space rather than tolerate and tune out.
So much changes when I look at things from this vantagepoint. At the end of the day, they’re just different sides of the same coin. The Punishment/Reward is a concept that’s gotten layered onto the whole cycle and keeps us in a never ending struggle to have one rather than the other. If I’m “good” enough or I’d better not be “bad” and all the permutations in-between are all different ways of clinging to pleasure & aversion towards pain. If it looks like Samsara and smells like Samsara…. well then it’s probably Samsara.
When I can let go a bit, then it’s so much less personal. It’s just the normal ups and downs of life. I don’t have to become anything different. I just need to surrender, let go or maybe I see things clearly and change some behavior, but can the change come without the delusion that we can live only on one side of the coin?
This one’s a mic drop. Better to leave it with your heart’s yearning.
I love this one. Osho might be a little edgy as a teacher. Especially if you’ve seen the documentary. For me, it’s a double reminder that the Dharma or the Truth- just is. The vehicles that bring us the truth can be deeply flawed- without making the Truth any less so.
The big key for me in this one is the invitation to RELAX. To stop all the doing and effort. What’s it like just to BE? What do I have to feel for the mind to step out of the conditioned pattern of doing?
Make more of something and there will be more. Make less of it and there will be less. This isn’t permission to bypass the difficulties of life. That doesn’t work. But it is an invitation to see all things as passing phenomenon. There’s a perspective in this way of seeing that allows us to observe rather than be swallowed whole by life.
There are days when nothing seems to go right. Today was one of them. As my frustration with things would start to mount I’d try to pause & find my feet for a second to ground back into the present. Then I’d take a few moments to really feel what the struggle was like. News Flash!! It feels pretty crappy. We all know this. Tight- Hot- Heavy. What’s it like for you?
After getting intimate with it for a bit, I’d transition back into the present moment. Notice the space all around me, put things into perspective from a logical vantage point. It became easier to put the frustration and anger down. Did it come back? Yes- We just keep noticing and changing the way we’re relating.
Yup. We can also be on top of a “furry hammer” as I like to call them- that’s a coping strategy or behavior that no longer works- then slip back into the pattern. We “forget to remember”.
Forgive yourself in advance-we don’t want to get out of balance and turn our entire life into a project. It becomes a question of how we can be a bit more intentional around working with these blind spots.
Occasionally taking inventory with a teacher or mentor around where we’re getting stuck or reactive so that we can bring it into awareness is really useful. I also know people who journal or do morning pages around these kinds of thought and behaviour patterns. There are lots of ways in.
Unwinding years of conditioning takes time. We can’t jump the walls of our defenses and tear out the belief systems, the fears, or the coping strategies. They were all, at some point, a form of protection. Dramatic uprooting rattles the nervous system and can undermine progress. the way we get the emotionally toxic stuff out is the same way it got in- spoonful by spoonful. Slowly, gently, with compassion and kindness- we let go, find balance, let go a bit more.